SouthernBoy
Regular Member
Yes, but I'd rather not do it at the expense of my marriage. It's just trying to figure out how to get her to accept it without her giving ME an ultimatum.
With due respect for both you and your lady, may I suggest that if she were to give you an ultimatum of "either the gun or her", your marriage is already in question.
I understand your plight and it is not an easy one. When I got married I was already a firearms enthusiast. Had my intended wife been opposed to my interests in this area and had she put pressure on me, we would never have gotten married. Same for my views of raising children. Fortunately for the two of us, we see eye to eye on such matters. She grew up around firearms so that issue was and is no problem.
You have a bit of a task on your hands and you have my best wishes in your endeavor. Others have made some excellent suggestions of how you might handle this by trying to convince her that you carry not only for your protection but for her's as well. And it is out of your love for her. If you just cannot get her to accept this, carry but be as discreet as you can. The one thing that will change her mind for certain is if you ever are caught up in something where you need that gun. Then the adage, "it's better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it" will have meaning to her.
I still am firm in my beliefs that your rights supersede her wishes. Voting, writing letters to the editor, your religious beliefs.... all of this unquestionably takes precedence over her comfort and her wishes. Why not the carrying of a firearm for protection? I see no difference here.
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